tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6753953551428017023.post6272774824131634923..comments2023-09-20T04:40:21.881-04:00Comments on The Thrift Store: But what does it all MEAN?secondhandsallyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09441141194173534168noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6753953551428017023.post-55788169371948499762007-11-07T08:58:00.000-05:002007-11-07T08:58:00.000-05:00I haven't come across that in awhile (although may...I haven't come across that in awhile (although maybe I will again now that my hair is short short)...and I've never experienced it said straight to my face, rather its been something yelled from a passing car, when I couldn't offer any response (so not in the context of a pick up, but then again, I rarely get picked up!). <BR/><BR/>I see it as indicative of a fragility of the male ego--and men are in their own way victims of certain norms that dictate the definition of masculinity. Women who do not find men attractive, or historically, chose not to marry and live alone or in "friendship" with other women are a threat to the natural order of things--the family unit, reproduction, etc.<BR/><BR/>I have to confess that I actually used the "we're lesbians" angle to get out of a somewhat uncomfortable situation when I was studying abroad in college. My friend and I were being pestered by a friendly but drunk and intoxicated guy who wanted to know if we had husbands/boyfriends, etc., and he just wouldn't leave us be so I told him we were lesbians. He was like "really!? lesbians?" and dropped it. The cultural context at the time worked in our favor because homosexuality was something that wasn't really discussed and was viewed as novel by people and we were lucky that this guy didn't become aggressive about it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com